Bipolar Disorder and the Struggle of a Professional Sista

Editor’s note: We are publishing this article on behalf of a well-educated African American professional woman who wanted to share her story for those going through a similar struggle with bipolar disorder. This is also a plea for help…

I need to write about the sensitive topic of mental health today. How does mental health effect traditional, Christian, ambitious, educated, and well-rounded black women? Do the words mental health alarm most people, especially black culture? Have you ever met someone who could not find a way to sleep regularly?

I am writing to express myself, an African American woman, prior to insomnia with the diagnosis of bipolar depression II, needs when facing this diagnosis, and my ups and downs to maintain a career. The general behavioral health doctors express that there are successful patients functioning well, some continually staggering to stay afloat (describes me), and others who permanently do not work. I have consistently been in and out of my career in the field of disability services from being a special education teacher, rehabilitation specialist, to speaker. 


Early on in life, I enjoyed being a positive influence on others. I was happy and healthy as could be. I was a young leader giving inspirational speeches and praise dances at churches. I grew up in a traditional family. I was involved on each of my campuses in junior high, high school, and college on committees, cheerleading, track and field, student council; In summary, I was an all-around individual with academics, peers, respect from elders, and full of ambition in the community.


I received two full scholarships to graduate school ministry programs, SMU and TCU. I attended Southern Methodist University for one semester. After that, at 23, my health began to drastically change. I developed sleep problems, emotional stress peaked, and panic began as I entered behavioral health doctors’ care.


Bipolar II involves ups and down in mood with an abnormal sad state tied to depressive mood problems no matter how much I fight them. I was recently told by doctor that with this disorder, unfortunately, I do not have a will over it.


My diagnosis involves the following:

• Insomnia, inability to fall asleep, tied to depression with significant communication issues with doctors, family, insurance, and working ability changes including NINE hospitalizations and numerous ER visits

• Long processes and gaps without income and employment

• Intensified challenges to have anything steady including regular functionality, social life, independent living (moved in with family)

I am ineligible for social security disability benefits because my work years/age timeline policy for public school workers is not covered (limits any income while needing long term or short term disability)

• Ability taken away to critically think, risky, and unrealistic behaviors in important decisions

• Difficulty to follow up on medical bills, regular bills, and budget without regular functioning (spiraled into a poor credit report)

Medications have caused: chronic fatigue, confusion, abnormal headaches, dizziness, weight up/down, unending physical aches, unusual sleepiness without sleep, anxiety, depression, muscle issues, restlessness, risky, wreckful behaviors.

At 22, I could not have imagined my life to take these turns of instability and survival problems. Now, 31, I hope this messages reaches someone who can imagine someone like me, volunteering on weekends at Dallas Film Festivals, March of Dimes, preparing my hair for winning/crowning Ms. Juneteenth Pageant and drastically having a life change that became dependent, less accomplished, and unable to prepare for life in important ways like I once could such as saving for home ownership, maintain traditional 8-5 work schedule, and enough income to keep high nutrition requirements.


I know it would be wonderful if I could own an expressive art gallery in Dallas Art Districts tailored to the bipolar community with art work that expresses individuals’ journeys with the disorder. This career would provide a beneficial community education business through the arts and flexible hours I need. How interesting could that be!


I dream of my life to feel alive again. Starting eight years ago, my need for special grocers gradually came to surface such as the need for gluten free foods. Research has proven strong ties to gluten intolerance and depression. My mothers’ teacher salary can only support a bit as I need major treatments not covered by insurance.


Chronic fatigue has presented significant problems for me to have any recovery. I am not conveniently located to health specialty food stores, treatments, volunteer opportunities, or social events to optimize my health. Can anyone help me with funding to get stable and achieve healthy outcomes?: own a home where I would have the opportunity to have ongoing treatments for my disorder: garden therapy, personal trainer, an art studio, afford alternative healing/treatments (not covered by insurance) for my disorder to hopefully end my hospitalization cycles and lead a gluten free lifestyle?

Sincerely,

Dallas, TX resident

 

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Ask John About Starting a Non-Profit Organization

Question: Hi John, I’ve had a idea for a non-profit organization in my head and on my heart for several years now but I don’t know where to start. I love make-up, hair and fashion and I love to uplift other women. I would love to start a non-profit where I can help women who are down on their luck (homeless, victims of domestic violence, jobless, etc.) look the part and get themselves prepared for job interviews. This is in hopes that looking the part will help motivate and jump start something for them. Please tell me where I can find info on how to start a non-profit. I have used the internet but there’s soooo much info that it gets overwhelming. Thanks!  – RB, Dallas

 

Answer: Hi Ronda and thanks for the question!

Very nice and generous mission you’ve set about for your non-profit organization idea! I think that’s commendable. And you’re right. Starting a non-profit organization, or any organization that requires registering with the government, can be quite complex and overwhelming. So it’s good to break it down into steps or phases:

 

  1. Pick a name that briefly reflects your organization in a way that can be branded easily. Register the name with a county authority. In Dallas County, you can go here
  2. Write down a plan that reflects the mission of your organization and captures the major tasks/milestones you want it to achieve over the next 2-3 years (per quarter, to keep it simple). You can find help here
  3. In the spirit of keeping things simple, you can register with the state as a non-profit without going the extra step of registering with the IRS, so long as you contain your activities within the state. For the State of Texas, you can go here. This site also has info on filing trademark applications if you decide to go that right (it can get a little pricey). When you’re ready to go nationwide and want to register with the IRS, go here
  4. For non-profits, it’s essential to get used to writing requests for grants. There are companies that offer help with this, or you can do it yourself. You can start here and here with how to go about the grant writing process.

 

Hope this helps, RB!

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The Hilton Anatole in Dallas | Southern Living Blog

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Southern Living magazine did a nice write up on the upscale Hilton Anatole hotel here in Dallas earlier this year. For those considering hotel stays when coming to Dallas on business, this article might help in your decision…

Located in Dallas, set on 45 acres of land, the hotel is considered to be one of the largest in the south with a new expansion underway. The hotel was built by Fred Trammel Crow (June 10, 1914- January 14, 2009) in 1979 as a gift for his wife Margaret Dogget Crow (May 17, 1919-April, 11, 2014). Despite Crow’s modest means growing up during the Great Depression, he became one of the largest real estate developers in the country, with interests said to be much larger then some of his better-known counterparts like Donald Trump—making his financial success Texas-large as well.

 

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Source: Dallas, Texas Large: Hilton Anatole | Southern Living Blog

This Woman Built an App Without Knowing How to Code…Now She’s a Millionaire! | BlackBusiness.org

Building an app without knowing how to code? How is that possible? Ask Tara Reed from Detroit, Michigan. This genius entrepreneur created a successful app, even though she knew nothing about coding – and little did she know that it would make her a millionaire!

Read the rest at: This Woman Entrepreneur Built an App Without Knowing How to Code — and Now She’s a Millionaire!

Dallas Lifestyles Vol 2 Just Posted! Much More Coverage of Black Dallas Life

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You like it, we love it! The 2nd installment of our popular Dallas Lifestyles video series has just been posted to our YouTube channel. It’s bigger, badder and sleeker with over 44 minutes of video clips featuring popular YouTube bloggers who moved to Dallas, buying big cribs, and shared their stories with their hundreds of thousands of followers! We display their YouTube channels or keyword info for you to easily find them to get in depth coverage of their remarkable stories that shows the world what affluent black professionals are doing across Dallas Ft. Worth. Also, our post includes Dallas black radio interviews with celebs, including Dallas native and Basketball Wives of LA celeb DJ Duffey who had her official birthday bash at Bungalow Pool Club near downtown Dallas. A snippet of Tom Joyner Morning Show’s Dallas interview with legendary group SWV…The popular movie celeb couple the Manns, who live in the Dallas Ft. Worth area…Gospel singer Erica Campbell’s magazine interview at Kenichi Sushi restaurant in the sleek Victory Park area of downtown Dallas near American Airlines Center…lit nightlife, and so much more! Check it out!

From our first video in this lifestyle series, we said that Dallas Ft. Worth is the most powerful engine of growth in the country. No need to repeat that here. Now you’re about to really see how turned up the black professionals are in this massive metropolitan area!
Black professionals are rising all the way up in Dallas. Just follow us at our website at AffluentBlacksOfDallas.com, and you’ll get an idea. From night events, to business networking events, we cover the topics you wanna hear.
This ground-breaking video series spotlights what we’re are doing all across Dallas Ft. Worth, including the notable ones who move here from all over the country!
Let us know your thoughts and what you wanna see in upcoming videos…And by the way, that sound you hear is that Dallas Urban Sound for 50 Plano Studios…
Dallas Ft Worth has some of the most sought after upscale real estate in the world…

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The Last Big Weekend of Dallas Summer Fun Has

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Hey there! It’s the 15th weekend of the Dallas Summer Fun Series, Labor Day weekend, and only a few more weeks left to get it in for the summer! What are yoooo doin’ this weekend? Lots of big events are going on across the vast expanse of DFW. Some events are at night and the more popular ones will require an RSVP…visit our Events page ). And for those who have jetted off to late summer travel destinations that include palm trees and beaches, let us know how it goes! Send pics and videos. For those still in Dallas Ft. Worth, capture some pics at swank and posh hotels like The Joule and Le Meridien, with those cool pools and world class interior designs.

 

The DFW area is still one of the fastest growing major urban areas in the country, and with so many people moving here, someone’s gotta keep up with all the turn’t up and low key events and activities.

Be sure to follow us and bookmark our popular Events page today! Also follow us on Instagram as well (@affluentblacks). if you’re a venue, nice restaurant, event promoter or organizer, keep us posted and definitely let’s work out advertising stuff to support this new article series. From jazzy wine bars to exciting night clubs and lounges, we’ve got you covered this summer! 🎊 🌴 😎 👊

Some fun events you may be interested in (bookmark our event page to keep up to date on all the DFW summer fun):

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It’s the 14th Weekend of the Dallas Summer Fun Series!

 

Hey there! As the new school season is getting into gear, summer is still in effect! It’s the 14th weekend of the Dallas Summer Fun Series, and only a few more weeks left to get it in for the summer! What are yoooo doin’ this weekend? All kinds of thangs are goin’ across the vast expanse of DFW, from the new social spots in Shops at Legacy like Flemings and Del Frisco’s Grille (sooo nice), to Top Golf and all kinds of day parties in and around Dallas Uptown and Downtown…and some “all the way up” night parties “for free” (with RSVP…Events page ). And for those who have jetted off to exotic destinations that include palm trees and beaches, let us know how it goes! Send pics and videos. For those still in Dallas Ft. Worth, capture some pics at swank and posh hotels like The Joule and Le Meridien, with those cool pools and world class interior designs.

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The DFW area is still one of the fastest growing major urban areas in the country, and with so many people moving here, someone’s gotta keep up with all the turn’t up and low key events and activities.

Be sure to follow us and bookmark our popular Events page today! Also follow us on Instagram as well (@affluentblacks). if you’re a venue, nice restaurant, event promoter or organizer, keep us posted and definitely let’s work out advertising stuff to support this new article series. From jazzy wine bars to exciting night clubs and lounges, we’ve got you covered this summer! 🎊 🌴 😎 👊

Some fun events you may be interested in (bookmark our event page to keep up to date on all the DFW summer fun):

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Celebrity DJ Duffey of Basketball Wives LA fame is bringing her official birthday celebration home to Dallas at Bungalow tonight (Fri, Aug 26)! Hopefully you got your RSVP cuz they had to add special tables to accommodate the crowd.

 

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